I ran across this interestig article about several actors and such who decided to share about their bed wetting. I am so glad that they have choosen to speak out about it. So many people are embarrassed about something over 500,000 adults in just the US alone have a problem with nearly every day. I'm one of them. I started wetting in my teens and never stopped. But at the same time, I think the thing to do is do what you need to so it doesn't keep you from living your life. Here is the article below and to read it directly go to: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2042136/The-adults-grow-bedwetting.html?ITO=1490
The adults who never grow out of bedwetting
By Lucy Elkins
Last updated at 10:42 PM on 26th September 2011
Larry Phillips has a successful career as a financier, is happily married to his wife of 30 years and has a grown-up daughter and a teenage son.
Popular and well liked, he has a thriving social life. But his life has been over-shadowed by a secret: he is a chronic bed- wetter and five or six times a week wakes up to find his sheets are damp.
‘It’s a humiliating thing to happen, but I’ve had to learn to live with it,’ says Larry, 54, from near Epsom, Surrey.
‘My wife is terribly understanding about it and always has been. Yet it has caused problems for me personally and professionally over the years.
‘It put me off going to university and has shaped my choice of job.’
However, Larry has never spoken openly about his problem with his children or friends — as he admits: ‘That would be just too embarrassing.’
Bedwetting is something we associate with young children, yet while most people grow out of it in their primary school years, a significant number do not.
Last week, the actor Martin Clunes revealed he’d suffered with it into his early teens.
According to the Bladder And Bowel Foundation, one in 100 adults will be affected by bedwetting at some point during their lifetime. That’s about 500,000 people in the country.
For obvious reasons, adult bedwetting is not a subject that invites discussion — as Larry acknowledges, ‘it is a closet condition’. This means that sufferers could be missing out on treatment.
Bedwetting, or nocturnal enuresis, often runs in families. If one parent was a bedwetter as a child, the risk of having a child who wets the bed rises to 40 per cent.
There are several possible causes for adult bedwetting, says Zaki Almallah, a urologist at the bladder clinic at the BMI Priory Hospital in Birmingham. A common cause is an ‘immature’ pituitary gland.
‘This gland — in the brain — helps with the production of antidiuretic hormone,’ says Mr Almallah.
‘Normally, the gland produces more of this hormone at night and this reduces the amount of urine made, so we are not woken in the early hours of the morning by a need to use the toilet.
'Without an adequate amount of this hormone, urine production continues as normal and so the risk of bedwetting increases.
‘This is commonly why children wet the bed, as their pituitary gland is not mature enough to produce the right level of this hormone. However, this can happen in adults, too.’
He adds that in some cases, the problem is that the bedwetter is a very deep sleeper.
‘They do not wake up even when their bladder is full,’ says Mr Almallah.
Another cause is an overactive bladder — this means that the bladder spasms when it is just slightly full, causing bedwetting.
‘Many adult bed-wetters will have a combination of all three of these to some extent,’ he says.
‘The longer it continues, the more entrenched it becomes as a habit.’
If bedwetting begins suddenly in adulthood, it is normally the result of another underlying condition, such as diabetes, heart failure, nerves, prostate problems, muscle problems or, in rare circumstances, a cancerous growth in the prostate or bladder.
For this reason, adult bed- wetting should always be investigated by a GP.
‘In some cases, there can be a psychological element, too,’ says Dr Helen Nightingale, who runs a clinic on the Isle of Man and is a spokeswoman for the British Psychological Society.
‘Emotional distress makes the body more tense and this may cause bedwetting among adults.’
Larry has not experienced any trauma and doctors have not found any underlying conditions. He wet the bed as a child and simply never grew out of it.
‘I was conscious I wet the bed and my younger sister didn’t, but my mum was blasé about it and didn’t take me to a doctor until I was in my late teens,’ he says.
‘It was not until I was in my 30s that mum admitted that she, too, had been a bedwetter until she was in her late teens.
‘She grew out of it and thought I would, too — which is why she didn’t take me to the doctor sooner.’
Larry was given a bedwetting alarm in his teens, which has a sensor that detects when the wearer is starting to wet the bed.
This is a standard medical treatment that works by conditioning, so the sufferer gets used to waking up when they have the urge to go.
When this didn’t help, Larry was also prescribed desmopressin. Available as a spray or tablet taken at night, this works like the antidiuretic hormone, reducing the amount of urine produced during this time.
‘This does not work for everyone, but it is successful in about 70 per cent of cases,’ says Mr Almallah.
Unfortunately, Larry wasn’t one of them.
‘When I hit 18, I started to get really worried about it and went back to the doctor. But he said there was nothing more he could do,’ says Larry.
‘I wonder if the fact that I am such as deep sleeper — I never wake during the night — is to blame and that now this is an unbreakable habit.’
Larry says his wife was very understanding the first time that it happened when they were sharing a bed.
‘I made out that it was something that occurred now and again,’ says Larry.
‘She was really nice about it.
‘But in the early stages of our marriage it became clear that it was a nightly problem.
‘When I admitted to her the full extent of the problem she was much happier, and as a result I think it made our marriage much stronger.’
Others have not always been so understanding.
‘I have to travel a bit for work and a few years ago I was attending a business conference,’ says Larry.
‘The chambermaid of the hotel I was staying in left my room door open and yelled ‘‘The man in room number 130 has wet the bed,’’ just as a group of colleagues were walking past. I was mortified.
‘I have since left that company and a former colleague later told me the news went round the office like wildfire.’
Now, he has bravely decided to talk about the condition to raise awareness of adult bedwetting and to encourage other sufferers to realise that they are not alone.
‘I have managed to make contact with about 30 other sufferers over the years, but there are a lot of people out there who tell no one what they are going through,’ he says.
Some of the people I know have lost relationships and so many opportunities in their life because of this condition.
‘I have tried to make sure my bedwetting has not ruled my life. My attitude has been: “OK, so I can’t conquer this problem — I am a life-long bed-wetter — but I am going to compensate for this by being determined and achieving as much as I can.”
And that’s what I have done.’
Larry has set up a social network for fellow sufferers — email [email protected][email protected]---------------------------------
I can't tell ya how happy it makes me to finally see people speaking out about a very common adult issue. Just think about it, if it wasn't so common, there wouldn't be whole isles of adult diapers in pharmacy stores like Walgreens, Rite Aid, CVS and others. Even in food stores there is adult diapers in a isle. I know it's embarrassing to admit to such a medical problem, but to have those in the spot light such as actors talk about it helps bring it out of the closet and showdows and into the light. On the site www.wetbusters.com they have a whole page of famous people that have had bed wetting problems. The page address is http://wetbuster.com/famous_people.htm. It's worth giving a look over.
Sadly the link on there for the movie "The Loneliest Runner" no longer works. It was a nice movie. It's about a boy who has a bad bed wetting problem. Because he never stopped bed wetting, his mom won't let him have anything but a toddler bed because the toddler bed has the waterproof mattress. So he wouldn't invite anyone over because of the toddler bed.
His mom every day made a huge deal about his wetting every day. His mom went over the top when his mom starts hanging his wet bed sheets out the window on the front of the house. He starts running home as fast as he can each day to pull in the wet sheets before anyone sees.
One weekend his mom decides to make him attend a sleep over thinking that maybe if he wets the bed there, his friends will shame him out of the wetting. Out of fear of wetting his friend's bed, he stays up all night long. His friend wakes up and asks "Did you stay up all night?". He tells him "Ummm, no, I just got up a few minutes ago". When he gets back home his mom tells him "I heard you didn't have a accident last night, perhaps you can show me the same courtesy". As expected, he went up to his room and being tired from staying up all night he fell asleep and wet his bed.
That night his mom tells his dad that his bed wetting is from lack of discipline. That to stop the wetting he needs to take a hair brush to his son's bottom and punish him every morning he woke up wet. Finally not being able to take it anymore he get's up, get's his wife's hair brush and goes into his son's room. But in the end, he can't do it. In the end, he tells his son he needs to get dry. And that if he can get dry for a whole month he will get him a real bed and get rid of the toddler bed.
He couldn't do it, but didn't want to not get the bed. So he would hide his wet clothes and each day before school would run to the laundry mat to wash his sheets. He comes home one day and his mom tells him she found his wet clothes because the laundry mat was closed one day. He breaks down and decides to run away.
He ends up at a mall. He hides out in the mall. The next morning he is found sleeping on one of the queen size mattresses by the owner. His parents arrive at the store to pick him up. Of course the mom starts screaming about how the kid is so out of control and everything. The dad finally tells her to shut up because he can't hear what his son just told him.
So he sits down next to his son and says "what did you say?". He says "Dad, I didn't wet the bed". That day he takes his son to pick out a new bed to replace the toddler bed. But not before sharing a bombshell. He tells his son, "I have to tell you something son. I was a bed wetter until I was about your age too. I was just too ashamed to say anything. I'm sorry".
At the end of the movie, he's being interviewed after he ran in the Olympics. He shares that because he ran each day for years he won in the Olympics. It's a real tear jerker if you get the chance to see it. I was just happy to see the mom get told off after she said and did such hurtful things to her son. To make fun and do such things as hanging his sheets out the window with the sole purpose of embarrassing him is just plain mean.
I know I got off topic here a bit. But Michael Landon's staring role in the movie is just one more actor to shed light on the problem of bed wetting. And it really hit home more because in real life he really did have a bed wetting problem until he was 14. So please everyone, don't feel like your any less of a person because you have a bed wetting problem. It doesn't change who you are.
Everyone has some kind of medical problem, be it diabeties, bad eye sight, bad hearing, cancer, and such. In this case, our problem happens when we sleep. In the end, there are mattress protectors to keep the mattress dry. The pee washes out of the sheets and pajamas. If you open the window in your room, any smells will go away.
And if you choose to wear protection of Goodnites, Underjams or diapers you can skip having to do laundry or even waking up cold and wet. I wear diapers for my wetting and although the diaper is wet in the morning, my bed is dry and warm. I take off the diaper and go on with my day like everyone else. Be yourself and don't let this night time problem stop you from living your life. Take care.